Comments on: Social contracts are hard – the job edition http://onticoren.com/2008/05/13/social-contracts-are-hard-the-job-edition/ Enough virtual, it's time for something real by Oren Teich. Wed, 13 Jan 2010 21:28:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Oren http://onticoren.com/2008/05/13/social-contracts-are-hard-the-job-edition/comment-page-1/#comment-74 Oren Tue, 27 May 2008 04:01:49 +0000 http://onticoren.com/?p=72#comment-74 James, thanks for the comment. I actually think you're right on the money. It is a bit crazy to pick a job based on 4 hours of talking to a few different people. I'm all for taking the "dating" approach. In the past for me, once I've managed to get the prospective company excited about me, I've turned it around and said point blank that now it's my turn to interview them, and I'd like to come in a second or third time to make sure we're a great fit. I've yet to have any pushback. The more I think about your analogy, the more I like it. I would no more tell my first date that I expect her to cook and clean and be barefoot in the kitchen (joking honey!) than I would outline my exact demands in the first interview. Finesse, take some time, and make sure you're right for each other. James, thanks for the comment.
I actually think you’re right on the money. It is a bit crazy to pick a job based on 4 hours of talking to a few different people. I’m all for taking the “dating” approach. In the past for me, once I’ve managed to get the prospective company excited about me, I’ve turned it around and said point blank that now it’s my turn to interview them, and I’d like to come in a second or third time to make sure we’re a great fit. I’ve yet to have any pushback.

The more I think about your analogy, the more I like it. I would no more tell my first date that I expect her to cook and clean and be barefoot in the kitchen (joking honey!) than I would outline my exact demands in the first interview. Finesse, take some time, and make sure you’re right for each other.

]]> By: James McNally http://onticoren.com/2008/05/13/social-contracts-are-hard-the-job-edition/comment-page-1/#comment-73 James McNally Tue, 27 May 2008 02:16:19 +0000 http://onticoren.com/?p=72#comment-73 Great random trail through MyBlogLog got me here just when I needed to read this. I'm going through this process from the other side and so it's neat to read about someone doing the hiring. I recently wrote a blog entry you might find interesting, called "Why Can't Working Be More Like Dating?". You might find it a bit whiny, come to think of it, but I certainly think work is changing and people are looking for more than just a paycheck these days. And after a particularly nervous day today involving an interview and the promise of another very soon, thanks for your advice: "Remember, at the end of the day, you can always say no." I need to remember that. Good luck with your situation, I hope you find some great people! Great random trail through MyBlogLog got me here just when I needed to read this. I’m going through this process from the other side and so it’s neat to read about someone doing the hiring. I recently wrote a blog entry you might find interesting, called “Why Can’t Working Be More Like Dating?”. You might find it a bit whiny, come to think of it, but I certainly think work is changing and people are looking for more than just a paycheck these days. And after a particularly nervous day today involving an interview and the promise of another very soon, thanks for your advice: “Remember, at the end of the day, you can always say no.” I need to remember that. Good luck with your situation, I hope you find some great people!

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